The Successful Do Not Burn Bridges!

I've seen some bridges burned in my days, but what I saw this evening is comparable to Hiroshima had the bombs functioned at full capacity*. Time to move on. It is incredibly, and so important, to never burn your bridges with anyone. People work hard to build relationships - and even if you aren't happy, you have no idea what the person on the other side is thinking. If you burn the bridge, you'll never know what you just lost. Burning bridges places a lot of negativity in world, which will only result in sadness. Put happiness into the world, and keep those bridges standing - that is an important part of being successful. The bridges I saw decimated this evening are all bridges that could have remained standing had individuals simply have communicated with one another. Rather than communicating, they took a distrubing level of action that has resulted not in the pain they hoped to inflict - but rather a great amount of pain upon themselves, probably even more than they will realize anytime soon.

All in all, there are very important rules to being successful. The following 3 are rules that could have prevented future problems:

1.) Communication. Talk about issues, or they will never be addressed.

2.) Put into the world what you want back. This isn't some spiritual comment of any kind. Simply enough, if you act negatively and hurtful towards others, than that is how they will act towards you.

3.) Do not burn bridges. Relationship bridges are guarded by the best militaries out there. Nobody is capable of crossing them. You can peer over the chasm with a telescope and attempt to see what is on the other side, but youre only way of truly knowing what is there is by communicating across the bridge. However, if you burn the bridge, then whatever was on the other side is now lost to you forever.

It fills me with a great amount of sadness to see people consciously and intentionally break the above three rules. I am honestly writing this blog entry because I am incredibly hurt. And that doesn't make me weak - everyone can feel hurt. The difference is if I take up drinking as a result, or if I simply move on. I've been through a lot, and when I saw those bridges burning, I simply brushed off the ash and moved on. There are numerous connections to be made, and great amounts of success to make flourish. There's no need to waste time focusing on the pain others wish to cause. And that goes for everyone! If there is something hurting you that someone else did, chances are they are burning the bridge with you - or simply flinging grenades over it, seeing what they can break. DON'T LET THEM. But don't burn the bridge back on them. Just raise the gate, and don't let their communications through to you any longer - they are wasting your time, and will hinder your own success.

I hope this post helps others! If you are someone who has burnt bridges, then think carefully about what was said here. Most importantly, think about this one question:

"If I had not burned that bridge, what might I have gained?"

If you can understand why that question is true in every single situation - no matter who it is against - then you are mature enough for your success to flourish.


* The nuclear bombs dropped on Japan during World War II only actually functioned at 20% of the capacity estimated by Einstein. Keep that in mind when you drop a bomb or burn a bridge yourself.